Madeline’s neurologist prescribed Strattera a couple months ago to help control her ADHD. We started her on a night time dose and gradually increased it before switching her to a morning dose because it has a side effect of stomach upset. I was thrilled that it was working to calm her down and help her focus. It also chilled out her tics. She occasionally complained of a tummy ache but didn’t seem to have any other undesirable side effects. I thought we were smooth sailing until I found out she had stopped taking her pills.
I pulled out the couch to plug in my laptop. To my surprise I found ten yellow and white capsules on the floor behind the couch. I give Madeline her medicine every morning except on the weekends. I didn’t pay any attention to if she was actually ingesting them.
At first I was pissed that she was deceiving me. I couldn’t help wondering what else she is doing that I’m completely oblivious to. I was also angry that she would hide pills with a toddler in the house that puts everything but food in her mouth. But then again Madeline is only nine and I guess she doesn’t think of things like that. I was still pissed at her. It was a good thing that she was in bed for the night when I made this discovery. Sleeping on it gave me a chance to calm down. I wasn’t so mad anymore by morning and I had to chuckle to myself about how I did something similar when I was a kid. I hated meat and vegetables. My mom made me eat both anyway. When my mom wasn’t looking I would put the detested food behind the stove or under my bed or the couch. In my childish mind I thought I would never get caught but eventually did when my mom would finally figure out where “the odor” was coming from. I’m sure Madeline thought she would not get caught.
I asked her if she had any idea what I found behind the couch. She gave me a completely puzzled look until I told her what I found was yellow and white and in the shape of a capsule. She tried to hold back her nervous smile. I reminded her that she can’t hide anything from mommy because I will always end up finding out. I asked her why she stopped taking her pills. Turns out they were giving her more tummy aches than I was aware of. I gave her a quick lecture on how dangerous it was to hide pills because our pets or her younger siblings could have gotten a hold of them. I also reassured her that she could tell me anything and that I would be understanding. We kissed and made up.
I was going to leave her off the meds for the summer but her anxiety has increased over the last couple of days. She’s becoming fearful at night time and has been climbing in bed with me for the last two nights. I don’t want her anxiety getting out of control like it was last summer. I discussed this with her and she agreed to trying the pills at bedtime so she will sleep through the tummy ache. This time I watched her swallow the pills. So we’ll see. I do hope she will be able to tolerate them through the night. The other ADHD meds really aren’t an option for her because they will most likely make her tics and anxiety worse. I hate that she has to deal with this at such a young age.
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tAnYeTTa
May 28th, 2007 at 3:11 am
i hope this medication works for her. she is so precious to have to deal with this at such a young age.
i had to laugh at her hiding the pills though. like mother like daughter? you might be on to something.
for instance a few years ago, my daughter decided to dye her hair blue, i almost flipped my wig then my husband reminded me of when we were in highschool and i had purple hair. *sigh*
Gnome
May 28th, 2007 at 4:13 am
Keep an eye on her heart rate! My daughter took this med and it seemed like it was working until she told me one day her chest hurt. Her resting heart rate was 140 (age10). It can (not always) give them heart palps and raise the heart rate.
LeRoy Dissing
May 28th, 2007 at 6:44 am
I would let the prescribing physician know of the stomach aches. I think the doseage may need to be changed or another med prescribed. I agree with gnome…this may be an adverse reaction to the medication that requires medical attention. I probably would not continue giving it to her until I talked to the doctor…just my two cents of non-medical sense
She seems very sweet for a nine year old. I can tell the apple didn’t fall from the tree - and that was meant as a compliment!
Momish
May 28th, 2007 at 9:31 am
I just want to give Madeline a big hug! Such a tough thing to deal with at her age. How could a nine year old understand all that medication stuff when adults sometimes don’t even get it?
I hope you find a happy medium with the meds and they can help her anxiety without tummy woes.
I admire how you handled the situation, I am sure she will now come to you in the future! What a great mom you are! (you know I sock away all these tidbits of knowledge you write for the future)
Sierra
May 28th, 2007 at 2:38 pm
What a tough thing to handle… both for you and the kiddo. Kudos to you both for being reasonable and working through the problem to find a happy solution. It is encouraging to know that it can be done.
Lisa
May 28th, 2007 at 2:41 pm
Yes, that is a difficult thing to deal with.
Isn’t it funny how they don’t realize we moms know way more than we let on.
BarnGoddess
May 28th, 2007 at 2:57 pm
you handled that perfect.
Id be sure to tell her MD about the stomach upset.
I read your previous post about the couture bag and her spoiled friend. I have found myself in a similar situation more than once with my 13 yo. Its hard regulating their friends but well worth the effort!
Peer pressure sucks.
Oh, The Joys
May 28th, 2007 at 6:45 pm
You are a good mama!
Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom"
May 28th, 2007 at 7:52 pm
Oh poor baby.
I’m sorry for that. She’s so tiny really and had no idea that she could have harmed her younger siblings…
You are such a cool mom. You handled that wonderfully. She is a lucky lady to have you…
Talk to her doctor…maybe he has some other ideas…
EE
May 28th, 2007 at 10:11 pm
Nice job, Mom!!!
I love the way you deal with your kids!
reevesfarm
May 29th, 2007 at 4:45 am
My 12yo daughter is severly ADD, and we could not get her help until the end of 3rd grade. She tested into the gifted program and every time I tried to explain to her old Dr. about how “out of it” she seemed to be I was brushed off because “that is just how gifted children are.” My Butt!
Some of the teachers including the gifted teacher had no idea how to deal with her because she did not have the hyper part of ADD.
When we first started meds she tossed a few herself, I felt so bad, like I was doing something horrible to her.
We did finally find a medicine that works, she feels better taking them, more in control. Everything about her life has improved with the RIGHT medicine at the RIGHT dosage…getting here just took some time and more than a few tears.
My thoughts are with you
dodo
May 29th, 2007 at 5:30 am
she’s very brave to go back to them knowing they give her tummy ache
crazymumma
May 29th, 2007 at 7:34 am
just thinking…if she was not taking the pills and you did not notice any huge change in her behaviour…..maybe she does not need them?
MotoMom
May 29th, 2007 at 2:44 pm
Dang it! I read your post where you mentioned you were going to try Straterra and was planning to ask you how that was going. I recently found out my daughter was not taking her Aderral because it causes appetite loss and she thinks everyone thinks she is anorexic. Pre-teens! After talking to her doctor we agreed to try switching over to Straterra this summer.
These middle school years have been Hell. We recently began seeing an ADD counselor, hopefully we can get a handle on things soon.
The "Mind"
May 29th, 2007 at 5:31 pm
Poor girl. Is there a possibility of giving her the pill after she’s had something to eat to help with the tummy upset? You know, like they say to take Motrin with milk.
Maybe a special snack that only she gets in the evening followed by the pill and make sure you watch her take it?