Yesterday while at a pool party my little red headed spitfire of a baby threw the mother of all tantrums. She was doing great considering we’ve just gotten back from vacation and an erratic sleep schedule. It’s amazing how the smallest thing can set them off. All I did was take away the open water bottle that she was attempting to bring in the pool with her which prompted her hissy fit which caused her to rub her tired eyes which caused her to rub sun block in them. Whoever deemed that lotion tear free obviously has never rubbed it in their eyes.
She proceeds to scream bloody murder as I keep trying to plug her up with her pacifier which would prompt her to throw it and me chase it. After about four times of that I give up and figure this would be a good time to round the kids up and mosey on out. I gather our stuff with Marigrace on my hip and screaming as if I was abusing her. I can feel the other mothers watching as Marigrace completely loses it. I even tried to give her a sip of my soda which of course another mom had to make a remark about which I respond with, “Whatever gets you through your day.” Or in this case, whatever gets you through the minute. What do you expect? I am a slacker mom and a little soda isn’t going to do her harm. I drank Kool-Aid from a bottle at her age and I turned out fine. She didn’t want it anyway. This was one of those times where only milk and her bed would stop her meltdown.
It was my childless girlfriend that actually helped me change Marigrace out of her suit as she had her hissy fit. Isn’t that interesting? All of this was happening in a time span of maybe five minutes but it felt like hours. I put Marigrace on a lounge chair so I can find Isabelle’s flip flops in my bag. Of course they are at the bottom so I have to take everything out to get to them. Meanwhile Marigrace is still screaming and thrashing about when she falls off the chair and I catch her by the leg just before her head hits the concrete.
I’m finally packed and have all kids in tow when the strap on my flip flop breaks. Have you ever tried to walk with a broken flip flop? You can’t. It was nearly 100 degrees so the concrete is scorching hot so I decide one hot foot is better than two burning feet and I walk out with one flip flop on. I must have been quite a sight with a screaming baby on my hip and my lopsided walk caused by the high wedge flip flop.
To top everything off I ended up with a raging sunburn. I was so worried about my little red headed demon getting burned that I neglected my own sunscreen. What’s so ironic about that is I was so diligent about sunscreen on vacation that I actually came back as pale as I left.
So you ask why I am thankful for this tantrum? Because my spirited baby is alive and well. The tantrum passes and my demon turns back into my little slice of Heaven. I can caress her soft skin, smell her yummy hair, and send her into a fit of giggles by kissing her neck.
A near tragedy put this in perspective for me. My hubby’s niece has a six year old son that I will call “J” who is in the final stages of cancer. They also have an adopted baby the same age as Marigrace. I will call her “A”.
J is on a very high dose of Methadone for pain. His dad prepared a dose for him but J fell asleep before his dad could give it to him. He placed the medicine cup on a high dresser behind a picture frame before he left the room. A short time later by the grace of God J woke up to find A drinking his medicine. She had managed to climb up and get the medicine cup. Just goes to show that they are watching when we think they are not.
Poison control was called and they immediately sent out an ambulance. At the hospital her heart rate dropped to ten beats per minute and it was real touch and go if they were going to save her. Her parents of course were beside themselves. I can’t stop thinking about my hubby’s niece with two fists of hair and screaming, “OMG, I’m going to lose both my babies!” Fortunately A is alive and well and went home today. I’m sick at the thought of how tragic this could have been. Their family has been through so much. I’m just so thankful that it had a good outcome.
Stories like this remind me of just how fragile and precious life is until I forget again and then something will happen to remind me again. Life is funny like that.
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Lisa
July 10th, 2007 at 9:52 pm
Been thinking of the family alot. Was wondering how they are doing.
So sorry they are going through all of this heartwrenching stuff.
As for Marigrace… She IS an adorable angel. So thankful that you saw passed the crazy, stressful stuff. How’s the burn?
Mert
July 10th, 2007 at 10:18 pm
I’m so glad that A is ok and was able to go home. I’m going to say some prayers for J’s family.
You are so right, It’s amazing what will put our lives in perspective.
BTW, me and Emma got children’s “tear less” sunscreen in our eyes yesterday, it burned REALLY bad.
i hope you your sun burn goes away quickly!
Dorky Dad
July 10th, 2007 at 10:53 pm
Wow. I’m so sorry for J’s family. My thoughts and prayers are with them.
Now as for that other mom that made the comment about the soda … I’m thinking of developing a line of STFU baseball bats. They would fit in nicely in your purse or bag, and when some other know-it-all mom, grandmother, dad, uncle, etc. says something like that, just whip it out and smack them right on the temple. They won’t say crap like that again.
Burg
July 10th, 2007 at 11:12 pm
Oh my.. That would be positively horrifying! I’m so glad the little girl is okay.
Rebecca
July 10th, 2007 at 11:21 pm
Wow. That’s all I can say. That and thank God.
Daddy Forever
July 11th, 2007 at 12:34 am
So sorry to hear about your bad day. I think we all have them, but probably not as bad your day.
Multi-tasking Mommy
July 11th, 2007 at 5:09 am
That sounds like you had one.bad.day! Yes, it is so true that you cannot walk in a broken flipflop!
The story you shared is a very scary one. I hope you don’t mind if I make a link to it. Whenever I find stories like this on a blog, I feel the need to share it with others as well, spread the word. We all need reminders like that one! What a very sad story. I feel for that family!
Thirty-One Trendy
July 11th, 2007 at 8:36 am
The thing about your day that is of course someone had to mae a comment about you trying to give your daughter a sip of soda. They can’t see that you’re dealig with the mother of all tantrums and you’re just trying to get through. So sorry to hear about J’s family. I can’t even imagine what they’re going through. I’ll be praying for them.
Jenn
July 11th, 2007 at 8:54 am
It always seems to happen, when I am most frustrated with my kids, I hear about someone who is or has lost their own child, and it makes me want to gather them up close and never let go.
A and J’s family are in my prayers.
JayJenny
July 11th, 2007 at 10:27 am
It’s just so true.
Lawyer Mama
July 11th, 2007 at 11:34 am
How horrible. It does help you gain perspective.
A former co-worker just had her 22 month old daughter drown in her grandmother’s pool. When I heard about it I immediately had to drive to my children and just hold them.
moodswingingmommy
July 11th, 2007 at 11:42 am
Oh, I’d like to smack that person who commented about the soda!
I am so sad for J’s family, and thank you for giving me perspective today. Thank God that Dad woke up in time and their little girl will be all right.
Cece
July 11th, 2007 at 12:08 pm
Wow. I’m so glad A is going to be fine. And I’m sorry to hear J is so sick.
Count your blessings. Even if they are filled with screaming kids & broken flip flops.
JaniceNW
July 11th, 2007 at 1:08 pm
This is why we should try and appreciate each day. I lost my youngest son to a fatal genetic disease when he was 10 months old. You get a whole new perspective on life. Glad A is ok. I feel for J’s parents as it is the hardest thing in the world to watch your child get sicker and die. I’ll be praying for them
Karly
July 11th, 2007 at 2:10 pm
Oh Lord, that gave me goosebumps. That poor family…how horrible for them!
And I would have totally went the soda sipping route myself. Screw the other moms!
Ms.L
July 11th, 2007 at 3:06 pm
It is my opinion that life is just not fair. I’m so sorry for what they’re going through:(
Don’t you just LOVE nasty little comments like that the one that woman made about the pop?
Dev threw a fit at a public arena once and I overheard somebody say “She should really give that kid a smack” I marched myself up to her and said “How about I give YOU a F-in smack??” She shut up as expected but I was SO hurt and angry. At her and at myself for reacting so badly. I’m proud of you for the way you handled things and I adore your outlook. I’m going to adopt it the next time one of my kids acts like a bugger…
carrie
July 11th, 2007 at 3:15 pm
That certainly puts those tantrums into perspective, doesn’t it?
From one mom who’s been there (in the parking lot with screamin’ toddler so everyone thinks she’s beating her and then ends up getting sunburned) - sounds like a day to come home and put your feet up with a tall glass of something icy cold!
Keeping your family in my thoughts.
Carrie
Annie
July 11th, 2007 at 3:59 pm
I’m so sad about J’s family - how gut wrenching.
It certainly does put things in perspective, big time.
And your flip flop story - can I tell you how comforting it is to read that I’m not the only person that crap like that happens to?!
BarnGoddess
July 11th, 2007 at 4:21 pm
when my 3yo’s allergies are flared up, I give him diet 7up…I guess Im a bad mama too!
I cannot imagine losing a child, that would be the end of me, I am sure of it.
~JJ!
July 11th, 2007 at 6:40 pm
Amazing isn’t it?
The things we take for granted at the moment.
Something similar happened to me when Fa was about 7 months old and I took her to the beach for the first time…amazing how people stare at a tantrum…
I am glad that A is well and I send my love to J…
sam
July 11th, 2007 at 7:31 pm
OMG. That gave me goosebumps too! So glad that everyone’s alive and well… including you! That’s quite the afternoon. I’m tired just reading about it!
Absolutely Bananas
July 12th, 2007 at 1:09 am
OMG I seriously cannot imagine. What a horrible situation. You’re right… even the bad days with a child are good and to be treasured.
shauna
July 12th, 2007 at 1:13 am
It does put things into perspective. Thank heavens for healthy, screaming, kicking children. And I’m so glad A is okay.
The Cheerio Queen
July 12th, 2007 at 9:22 am
your right this does make you think and shudder. I understand how that mom feels. My own child at age 2 who had always been the child who never stepped two steps away from mommy, wandered off in the park once. He was sitting next to my leg eating an apple as I spoke to another parent for 2 minutes. I looked down and he was gone, as I was looking for him he managed to walk down a long path unnoticed, through the parking lot!, and down the beach and right into the water. Fortunately by the grace of God a good samaritan noticed this little two year old (keep in mind there were a thousand kids there that day it was end of year preschool picnics everywhere) and she grabbed him and asked him where his mommy was. Meanwhile my sons teacher and I and about ten other parents were searching for him, he was totally gone from me for about 6 minutes. He was wet up to his shoulders when I got him back and when I asked him where he was he said he was fishing. Now I admit I can grin about that comment now but I still to this day wake up with nightmares about that. I could not sleep for a month after that. So give the other parents a hug and also I will add both their kids to my prayers!
Jenna
ewe are here
July 12th, 2007 at 9:58 am
Oh dear God. I gasped when I got to the sentence about A found drinking the cup of methadone… thank god he woke up in time and she’s all right now.
Losing one would be a nightmare and a half in and of itself, but to lose both…!
My heart goes out to them.
Super B's Mom
July 12th, 2007 at 12:53 pm
I can’t believe another mom actually had the nerve to comment about the soda. I would’ve shook it up and let it spray on her.
So sorry to hear about your bad day. We do indeed have our bad days - but even bad days can be good days - depending on how you look at it. (AND if your child is in bed asleep instead of screaming and throwing stuff)
Thank God A is ok. What a terrifying experience. My heart goes out to that family all around.
Sierra
July 12th, 2007 at 9:13 pm
I love your insight and perspective on disasters. I’m so glad that things are okay with A and that you are able to appreciate even the toughest challenges of motherhood.
Carrie
July 13th, 2007 at 12:30 am
What a tragic event. I hope Everyone is fine in your family.
PinkPowerSuit.com
July 13th, 2007 at 9:10 am
Oh, that is horrendous! This poor family. They would have felt so much guilt, even though it was an innocent mistake. It was miraculous timing that he woke up then. My heart was racing as you were telling that.
Coming down from that, good for you for catching Marigrace! Take that, Judgementals! You have to be a good, in-tune mom (with quick relfexes, yes) to catch your daughter while being distracted doing something else. I can’t believe someone would say something about the pop. I mean, “soda”. Most moms WOULD try to placate their toddler with anything!
Mama Luxe
July 13th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
Thank you for that beautiful post and for giving us such an amazing perspective…until, of course, the next time Baby Diva is having a meltdown and I forget for a second how grateful I am to have her.
Danni
July 15th, 2007 at 7:46 pm
How unfortunate. I hope J’s family is fine.
Lotta
July 15th, 2007 at 10:51 pm
Wow, so glad she’s ok!
Carla
July 17th, 2007 at 7:51 am
So nobody else thought to even lend you a hand at the pool party?? Crazy. You are so right about getting through the “mommy moments” even though they seem to take hours!
I will be praying for A and J’s family. Breaks my heart when children suffer.