On August 19, 1997 we brought Sonny home to live with us and ten years later to the day we sent Sonny to live in God’s home.
We had him euthanized a little after 7pm this past Sunday. It was such a gift to him and to me that he went so peacefully.
Sunday was a very hard day. If you’ve been following along you know that Sonny had a nasal tumor that was slowly claiming his life. On Saturday I made the very difficult decision to end his suffering. Ironically the date of his passing was the ten year anniversary of when he became our dog. I believe it was a divine intervention of the universe sending me a sign that I had chosen the right time.
We spent our last day with him by treating him to all the things he loved. He ate like a king and received lots of petting which was his favorite thing of all.
At one point I got a chance to spend some time alone with him. I took him out to the pool for his last swim but rather than swim he sat in the water on the step. I think he was afraid to go out by himself. He did later swim once the rest of the family joined us.
We sat alone together for quite awhile. I told him how much we loved him and thanked him for his loyalty. Then we sat quietly, listening to the birds, watching the squirrels, and taking in the beauty of the trees and flowers surrounding us. It made me sad that he no longer wanted to chase the squirrels or run in the grass. When did he get so old? It happened so gradually that I hadn’t noticed. At that moment I realized how old and sick he really was. Now looking back at photos it’s more than obvious.
His last supper was a pork chop, corn, and lots and lots of treats. His belly was so full and he was so worn out from swimming that he was falling asleep with his head up.
Our plan was for the kids to go out to dinner with a neighbor. As I was getting them ready to go, Isabelle who has sensory issues, began complaining that none of her clothes felt right and that she felt like she couldn’t breathe. She no longer wanted to go with my neighbor which prompted Madeline to whine about staying home. My hubby decided that rather than he stay home for the euthanasia he would take the kids out for ice cream. I think he was more than happy to have an “out”. I was relieved too because I was upset enough and I don’t think I could have handled seeing him lose it.
My best friend Rhonda who is a vet and another vet friend Aileen called to let us know that they would be at the house at 7 pm. That gave us 25 minutes to finish our good-byes. I set up the camera with the timer so we could get a family photo with Sonny. I was a nervous wreck so it was no surprise that I cut off some heads.
My hubby and the kids took turns privately saying good bye to Sonny. Isabelle was last. When I came in to see what was taking her so long I found her hysterically crying. This is the first time she had cried or voiced any sadness about Sonny. She was finally understanding the finality of the fact that he would no longer be here when she got home. I was able to calm her down enough to get her in the car but she bolted back in to say good bye one more time. It broke my heart in a million little pieces.
My hubby and the kids left just as Rhonda and Aileen arrived. Sonny was so excited to see Rhonda that he had a pretty bad coughing and wheezing spell. It was really hard to see him jump up to greet her with his tail wagging knowing what we were about to do.
The rest is a blur of tears so I will save you from all the details. It was such a gift from Rhonda and Aileen that he was put to sleep at home. He was not at all stressed. All he knew was that two of his favorite people were petting and kissing him as he went to sleep. At first it was difficult to see him so lifeless but then the realization that he was no longer suffering sunk in. I hadn’t seen him look so peaceful in a long time. In the last few months his sleeping was plagued with snoring and a slow trickle of blood from his nose.
I hugged and kissed him one last time then went down to the pool to sit where I sat with Sonny a few hours earlier and cried like a baby.
The house feels weird. I keep looking for him to be in all his usual places. I have lost pets before but none of them have hurt like this. There was something special about Sonny. He was such a gift to us and I’m grateful that we gave him the gift of easing him out of this world in such a loving way.
We will never forget you, Sonny Boy. You will always have a special place in our hearts.
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Smiley:D
August 21st, 2007 at 11:11 am
ahhhhhhh! muahhhhhh! He so yummy! I just wanna love on him. What wonderful pictures to have as keepsakes. He was definitely a member of the family. Time will help take away the sadness and loss you feel. Love to you all ! Smiley:D
BarnGoddess
August 21st, 2007 at 11:30 am
Sonny was born on my b-day!
he is such a beautiful dog, you and your family are lucky to have had him in your lives.
I know nothing I say will make it any easier….
((hugs))
Elaine
August 21st, 2007 at 11:34 am
I am in tears. What a blessing to have vet friends like that. I know so many people who would give anything to have had their pets final moments be at home, in a comfortable place.
Hang in there! Look at old pictures and think of funny memories!
a dog-loving friend in Indiana,
Elaine
Lisa
August 21st, 2007 at 11:37 am
Ahhh. I’m teary too. He was such a sweet pup. You guys gave him a life filled with love, treats, fun, and adventure. He lived a wonderful life.
My heart is with you…
Jenster
August 21st, 2007 at 11:39 am
Your story is beautiful and had me in tears again. A little for you and your family and a little for me and mine, remember when we lost our Golden Retriever about three years ago.
Your Sonny was an awesome dog (but then you knew that) and he’ll always have a special place in your family. :o)
Summer
August 21st, 2007 at 12:11 pm
Okay, now you’ve got me crying. What beautiful family photos. So sorry for your loss.
Momish
August 21st, 2007 at 12:11 pm
I am bawling my eyes out, so I can only imagine how you feel.
You will treasure those pictures forever.
I am so so sorry. I hope the pain eases soon, even if the sorrow will always remain. It was his time and you are right, you couldn’t ask for a more comfortable and content way to go.
JayJenny
August 21st, 2007 at 12:51 pm
I’m so glad you were able to say goodbye in the best way for your family and those photos will be such a keepsake in the coming years. You will never forget what a special place he left in your heart, but the pain will reside as the days pass. Today is the anniversary of Lacie’s death, so as I type this, I’m crying alongside of you, knowing just how difficult it is to say goodbye to such a beautiful, loving and attentive family member. My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope you find comfort in each other and can remember the wonderful years you spent with Sonny. {{HUGS}}
MamaLee
August 21st, 2007 at 12:58 pm
I’m now crying like a baby. I’m so glad you got pics of the whole clan. And although it’s so hard for the kids, they grow to have such a respect for life and a love for animals.
And he looked like he was in pain, and yet, he looked so loved by you and your family. You did everything right, dear girl.
I know you are sad. Sonny is now your sweet angel - you can now take him with you, everywhere you go. So sorry.
xoxo
Tabba
August 21st, 2007 at 1:12 pm
hugs and kisses to you all.
that was a brave decision.
thinking of you all - and have been.
Mrs. Schmitty
August 21st, 2007 at 1:15 pm
I’m so sorry….sending hugs your way.
carrie
August 21st, 2007 at 1:15 pm
I am so sorry.
And I’m crying with you - Sonny looks a lot like our dog “Brandy” who we had to put to sleep at the age of 19! That’s a lot in dog years. I was 6, I spent his last night with him on my favorit blanket in a corner in our living room. I’ll never forget him, and your kids will forever cherish their last moments with this very special member of their family. Forever.
Melina
August 21st, 2007 at 1:24 pm
I’m in tears over here, what a beautiful post you just wrote. I could feel the love your family has for Sonny. He was a very lucky dog.
You will be missed Sonny I’m sorry I never got to know you.
Hugs to you and your family.
Rebecca
August 21st, 2007 at 1:37 pm
Kristie, remember the hug I gave you Friday night? Take that hug and give it from me to you again right now. I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing the photos, your family is as beautiful as I imagined.
MARFSBABY
August 21st, 2007 at 1:38 pm
What a beautiful post - I’ve only recently started reading your blog and I’ve been following your Sonny story and I’m heartbroken for your and your family. And so happy at the same time that your beautiful kids and yourself had such a great friend in him to bless and enrich your lives for the time that he did.
Lawyer Mama
August 21st, 2007 at 2:21 pm
K, I’m so, so sorry. Your post made me cry. And those pictures are adorable. Hugs to you.
Annie
August 21st, 2007 at 2:41 pm
I’m crying like a baby, too after reading that. I hope it doesn’t hurt this much for you all for too long.
Jenn
August 21st, 2007 at 2:42 pm
You did right by your ole Sonny Boy.
My heart is with you and yours.
Heather
August 21st, 2007 at 2:46 pm
Tearing up as I read this. I know how hard the path you’ve recently walked is. ((hugs)) You did right by Sonny.
Jennifer aka Binky Bitch
August 21st, 2007 at 2:49 pm
Well dammit, I’m crying. I’m so sorry about Sonny. Thanks for sharing your story, makes me realize I should pay more attention to my two pups.
Hugs to you.
~JJ!
August 21st, 2007 at 2:52 pm
Jesus, I’m crying over here…
I’m so sorry that your home isn’t the same with Sonny gone. He was special to you on this earth and he will forever be a special part of your hearts…
hugs. and licks too.
QT
August 21st, 2007 at 2:54 pm
Oh god, K, I am truly tearing up here at work. What you did was brave, and a gift to Sonny. I was the same way after doing this with my dog, I kept thinking I heard her coming down the stairs, her nails on the kitchen floor. I had to get another dog after a few weeks, it just killed me.
Hugs to you, my friend.
JYankee
August 21st, 2007 at 3:21 pm
that was really sad…. but sonny’s in a better place and it was good that he could go in a comfortable place, surrounded by loving caring family….
Scrapping My 2 Precious Gems
August 21st, 2007 at 3:59 pm
(((HUGS))) I am also in tears. It is so hard to say goodbye to such a loyal friend. But he isn’t suffering, and that is the best gift you couldve given him. Think of all the good times and know that he will always be in your heart.
Gretchen
August 21st, 2007 at 4:36 pm
I’m crying (again!), as I read one of your posts about this special friend. God bless you all. I know how hard it is. I know. YOu are brave and amazing. I know Sonny is so proud of his family. He’ll be waiting on the other side of that rainbow bridge.
Queen of the Mayhem
August 21st, 2007 at 5:22 pm
Good LORD woman…you have me crying like a baby!
I am so sorry for your loss! I suppose it is good that he is no longer suffering…….hang in there!
HUGS TO YOU!
teebopop
August 21st, 2007 at 6:22 pm
Sonny came into this world and left the same way - loved.
You showed great strength in being able to let go and to do it in such a compassionate way touches my heart.
And even though everyone is sad I am sure there are more happier memories of Sam because of the way you handled it - rather than having to witness what could have been a painful passing.
And that would have left more sadness than joy for the years he was with you.
Zookeeper
August 21st, 2007 at 6:34 pm
I’m crying too hard to write anything sensible. I’m so sad for you and you family.
heather
August 21st, 2007 at 7:27 pm
i have to say, that divine intervention struck again. i need to call this very week to have my cat put down. he’s 6 and has been very sick from a cat fight since may. i’ve nursed him back to health only to lose him to illness over and over. i don’t want to do it and yet he is suffering. i knew when i stumbled onto your post that it was confirmation.
thanks for your emotional and honest post. it is a blessing to me to know that we ‘ll be ok, and so will my kids, even though i’m so very sad.
blessings to you as you get used to life after sonny
KC
August 21st, 2007 at 8:16 pm
He helped fill your house with love, and now that love will go on.
hugs.
canape
August 21st, 2007 at 8:16 pm
Rest in peace, Sonny.
Blue Momma
August 21st, 2007 at 8:19 pm
I’m so sorry! We just had to put down one of our cats this morning and I know how gut wrenchingly hard it is. I don’t know what else to say, except I’m sorry.
we are reilly
August 21st, 2007 at 8:34 pm
Oh, you have me crying like a baby and I’m not even a ‘dog’ person. We have a cat of 10 years and I will be the same way you are when that time comes…it’s hard to say good bye to someone/something you love so much!
Kristin
August 21st, 2007 at 8:35 pm
This was oh, so sad & I was in tears the whole time. I can’t even imagine how you feel. Your family created such wonderful, special, loving memories for your loyal family member.
Linlee
August 21st, 2007 at 9:09 pm
I’m so sorry. You’re post was beautiful.
Farrell
August 21st, 2007 at 10:08 pm
that is so sad. My dog started limping yesterday and I FREAKED OUT (it was only a sprain). She is part of the family, no doubt, and I can’t even imagine what you’ve been through lately:(
*hugs*
Ruth Dynamite
August 22nd, 2007 at 5:49 am
So sorry, Kristie.
sam
August 22nd, 2007 at 5:55 am
Like a have said before. Sonny is one lucky guy to have you guys as a family. What you did for him isn’t easy, but so selfless and wonderful. He’s probably swimming and running again, and snoring less!
My thoughts are with you and your family K!
Pgoodness
August 22nd, 2007 at 6:14 am
crying like a baby here, too
Shelli
August 22nd, 2007 at 6:35 am
What a lovable dog. Your post made me cry. I’m glad that he could go in peace in his home. My thoughts are with you.
Carla
August 22nd, 2007 at 9:28 am
I’m so sorry for your loss. I am thankful that Sonny was such a wonderful dog to have!! Priceless pictures.
Scott
August 22nd, 2007 at 9:35 am
I read your story with tears in my eyes. I hope you and your family are doing ok.
Jenny
August 22nd, 2007 at 11:04 am
Oh Kristie, so sorry about your having to say goodbye to Sonny.
Like you, we had to put our Yellow Lab, Molly, to sleep six months ago. Of our four kids, Emma definitely took Molly’s death the hardest. She still cries now and then.
They affect us forever, huh?
Super B's Mom
August 22nd, 2007 at 11:51 am
I’m sitting in my office crying my eyes out. What a beautiful and touching story. Sonny was an incredible dog and it’s very apparent you all shared a very special bond.
I’m so sorry for your loss. But you did the right thing. I wish all dog owners were as caring and loving as you all were with Sonny.
I thought about you a lot that night. Sounds like you gave him quite a day of love. Hugs to you.
BlondeMomBlog (Jamie)
August 22nd, 2007 at 12:36 pm
I’m so so sorry! We were with my husband’s childhood dog when he was euthanized at home years ago. It was so so tough.
Sonny was very blessed and lucky to have an amazing family like yours. I know it was so hard to say goodbye to such a special companion and friend but it is a blessing you were able to let him pass on peacefully and at home. I know he is smiling down at you from heaven. And now he is young and healthy and running.
Take care…big big hugs.
Ms.L
August 22nd, 2007 at 2:32 pm
I am so glad he went peacefully and your experience was calm and non traumatic.
I felt the same way afterwords:How did my dog get so old and how did it happen so fast?
I was glad that my husband wasn’t home for the same reasons. It was important to me to be strong and having him there would have made me lose it. I did lose it,afterwards in bed:)
Goodbye,sweet sweet Sonny boy:)
Peg
August 22nd, 2007 at 5:46 pm
Oh, I’m sending you all my support and virtual hugs. It’s been a tough time, I know…
Joy, of course
August 22nd, 2007 at 8:27 pm
I sit and read this with tears running down my face. I am so very sorry for you loss.
PinkPowerSuit
August 23rd, 2007 at 12:40 am
I’m so sorry, ((K)). I’ve been there but not really. I’m crying for you and wishing you all feel back to normal sooner than you’d expect.
Pattie
August 23rd, 2007 at 7:35 am
:,(
You did the most loving thing for him. I am so very sorry.
Lotta
August 23rd, 2007 at 10:10 am
Gosh this reminds me so much of when we had to put our golden Corby to sleep. We still have the last tennis ball he chewed on before we brought him in. It’s so hard I know, and this sounds really kooky - but Corby still comes to me in my dreams. Especially if I’m having a nightmare. I like to think he’s become a guardian angel for my family.
Student of Life
August 23rd, 2007 at 11:17 am
Our dog was our first child. Now, our three year old son can barely handle dropping her off at the kennel so we can go on vacation. I can only imagine what it will feel like when he has to say goodbye to her forever. My heart hurts for you and especially your kids. Death is so hard to understand when you are grown, unimaginable when you are little. Best wishes helping them cope with their loss.
*~*Cece*~*
August 23rd, 2007 at 11:43 am
I tried to get through it without crying and was almost successful. I’m so sorry for your loss. {{hugs}}
Rusti
August 23rd, 2007 at 1:48 pm
I’m hurting and crying with you… those pictures are wonderful to have and I wish we could have done the same for our Josie-girl. I will keep your family in my prayers, and hope that Sonny is in Doggie Heaven with my Jo and Jenny’s Lacie having a grand old time. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Bubba
August 23rd, 2007 at 2:59 pm
I am so sorry again for this…but we also know that you’re much richer for having him in your lives.
God bless you all.
Gnome
August 23rd, 2007 at 6:30 pm
OH darling!!! What wonderful pictures and what a wonderful gift your family was to Sonny as he was to your family! Thinking of you!!! (((hugs)))
shauna
August 23rd, 2007 at 9:57 pm
I’m so sorry I’ve been away this long. Sonny had a wonderful life and you gave him a beautiful passing. How lucky he was to be so well loved. And what great memories you must have of him. Here’s hoping that the ache in your heart will soon be filled with all those happy memories. Thinking of you…
tiggerprr
August 25th, 2007 at 3:04 pm
I am so so so sorry for your loss. As I said before, I know your pain and feel yours with you. I am happy he went peacefully with you, in his home.
Mert
August 27th, 2007 at 10:41 am
I’m so sorry Kristie, yet so very happy that You and Sonny aren’t hurting so bad now… I know you are going to miss him forever.
I lost my UrsaBoo 3 years ago, and her brother 10 years ago… and the hurt never goes away. Your pain is a testament to your love for him, and that’s a good thing. (((HUGS))) to you and your family.
Christine
August 27th, 2007 at 3:41 pm
I’m sobbing as I type this…I am so glad you allowed your friend to help you.
I’ve been behind on my reading (our house is on the market) but I’m glad I knew there is a Happy after this sad, otherwise I think I’d have to medicate myself.
moodswingingmommy
August 28th, 2007 at 10:35 am
I have tears streaming down my face….I am so sorry for your loss of sweet Sonny!
What a blessing that he had such a joyful life and peaceful and happy end at home.
I wish you great happiness with your new pup. He is just adorable!
Terri@SteelMagnolia
August 28th, 2007 at 11:55 pm
OMG I am bawling…
I love your pics…
and his last day sounded sooo much like our beloved dogs last day…
we spoiled him with NY steaks.. and anything he wanted…
the family was all around him..
Gutwrenching…
I am sorry.. he’s so adorable…
I hope he’s up there meeting my beloved pets:
Sherman 9 yrs, Savannah 12 yrs, Mindy 9 yrs , Petie Cat 20 yrs, Magic 17 yrs, Winston 12 yrs, Sadie 9 yrs,
they are all up there chasing balls and chewing toys.
Steph
September 4th, 2007 at 11:12 am
I don’t know if I’ve ever commented here, but I read you religiously. I just had to comment on this post because it made me cry and was so very touching.
Helping him go was the ultimate gift of love on your part. I raise two species of exotics and also have dogs and cats and have fostered and rescued for years. I’ve been there more times than I can count. I cry every single time, but I try to remember that our ability to help them leave the pain in such a peaceful way is truly a gift.
There is a wonderful poem called “The Rainbow Bridge”. It’s too long to post here but if you Google it, it will come up. It might help give your family some comfort, I read all of the time and it gives me something to visualize.
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